A woman isn’t determined by her style, or whether or not she is a messy or clean person. A woman can’t be judged on the shows or movies she enjoys or the hobbies she takes up. Those kinds of things are pointless when trying to prove yourself a woman. A woman is deeply involved in 4 things: goals, priorities, reality, and attitude. If those aren’t 4 things that come up a lot in your life, you might not be ready to call yourself a woman.
1. Age Ain’t Nothing But A Number.
Age and biology determine when a girl’s body transforms into a woman’s, but that doesn’t necessarily change the attitude and mindset. Age doesn’t equal maturity or wisdom. A girl becomes a woman when she learns that life is hard, and she is prepared for difficulty. One of my favorite quotes is “Luck happens when preparation meets opportunity” and the same goes for life.
Luck happens when preparation meets opportunity
2. Her Goals Are Long Term, Reachable, & On Their Way To Being Achieved.
She sets goals that (almost) everybody sets. She plans on owning a home, she may want a family, she dreams of being financially stable through her own doing, etc… but the difference is that while a girl plans on these things, a woman is already working towards them. She knows how to budget and how to put money away into some kind of savings, consistently. She does her research, and has an idea of what to expect when attempting to hit any of the goals, not flying blind in hopes that whatever she has planned works.
If she wants to be career oriented, she’s working towards it, not hoping for it. Whether it’s through getting an education, networking, or just simply working her way up the ladder by putting in more hours than the other person, she knows there is a long road ahead of reaching her goal of making her own money, and she is already working on her roadmap.
3. Disappointment Is A Reality, Not A Shock.
She knows not everything goes her way, and she expects it. You should always hope for the best, but expect the worst. Some may say this sounds pessimistic, but it’s realistic. When she gets let down, a woman takes the loss, and comes back stronger from the experience, not weakened. A lost job, a failed relationship, a competition they don’t win, and other deterrents only momentarily sidetrack her, not stop her.
4. Dirty Laundry Goes In Your Hamper, Not On Social Media.
She knows that whining about problems on social media doesn’t fix them, so it’s just a waste of time. Social media is used for networking/marketing(if necessary), keeping up with old friends, or simply just entertainment. She doesn’t get caught up with other people’s drama or let’s the petty things affect her. A woman doesn’t host a pity party either, but she occasionally attends them, only to break it up. A girl will say what someone wants to hear to console them but woman tells it like it is and it hurts, but it’s necessary. #TruthHurts.
(Side Note) If you’re over the age of 20 and you still post things to social media like a 16 year old high schooler who hasn’t passed their english class, just stop “internetting” i.e. “OMGZ i cnt even.. Sale 2day at nordstroms. U no ur girl is going 2 b there. #Holla :)”
5. A Woman’s Got Thick Skin.
When you’re on another level of maturity, It’s easy to spot someone who is still in the catty, high school state of mind. A girl attacks someone with insults, or tries to hurt them with lies, a woman comes after you with the truth. Not saying she’s a heart of ice, but she doesn’t let every little thing affect her. Someone doesn’t like her, she finds out why from the horse’s mouth, she isn’t afraid to confront someone like an adult and ask a question, and she doesn’t get hurt by the answer. Obviously no one wants to be talked about behind their backs, or have negative things said about them, but a woman takes it with a grain of salt and moves on. “Nancy called me a bitch? Cool. Want to grab some pho tonight?”
6. She’s In Touch With The Real World (Not The Show).
A woman knows that life happens when you’re not expecting it to, and is always on the lookout for it. A woman knows where expectations and reality meet, and that’s what she plans on being prepared for. She lives in the real world, not on Facebook or Instagram, so her priorities are built on that. She plans for running productive errands on the weekend over partying. She plans out a monthly budgets over planning wine night with the girls.
She looks for substance over surface in everything she does. Not saying she doesn’t have a night to talk with the girls or watch their favorite show over some bottles of wine, or that she doesn’t occasionally go out on the weekends for some fun, she just knows that those come after the important things. She researches on self improvement, not taking selfies. Just like everything in life, you reward yourself after the less desirable stuff is completed, not before.